Ways To Embrace Who You Are.

 

From the day we are born. We have been taught to say thank you and show gratitude to other for their kind behavior towards us, but, we never learned to love ourselves and show gratitude towards us. Whenever we go on social media we are constantly bombarded with quotes of self-love, self-acceptance that says ‘be you’ and ‘don’t forget to be yourself’. That is the best advice anyone can receive but no one tells us how can you do that.

Being you is that easy it not like a switch that you can turn on and off whenever you want. If it was like that then I would not be here writing a whole article about it. there is no universal way that can tell us how to love yourself. Here are some of the ways through which you can start to realize you are brave, unique and worthy self.

Practice

The major thing to note here is that it is not something that happens overnight. It is not easy and automatic. Learning to accept who you are is a long and bumpy ride because you are a human who makes mistakes as well and that is completely fine. Just know that every time you try to own yourself and stay true to what you actually want you are getting closer to your goal than you were yesterday.

Choose your support

Be in the group and presence of people who are willing to appreciate you, are willing to accept who you are despite all your flaws. These people should not be the ones to judge you on your actions. Although, embracing yourself is extremely personal but it will not anyone if you have people (external forces) who will support you in your loving yourself journey. These people can support your growth and believe that you will never be the same person that they met. They know that with your growth as an individual you will have various versions of yourself.

Accept your mistakes

As you go on with your life it is important to forgive and forget the mistake that you made in the past. You must forgive the wrongdoings of yours with others and with yourself as well. Just know that you are a human and cut yourself some slack because humans make mistakes in their lives. Be kind and practice compassion for yourself. since the process is all about embracing yourself then that includes your mistakes as well.

Differentiate your values from the values of others

In order to get in the good books of others we have stated to forget what we actually wanted. We have been practicing this habit of pleasing others for so many years that it is going to take forever to unlearn this and give importance to yourself again. Remember that people’s opinions about you does not define your worth.

Know who you are

The most important part of embracing yourself is all about knowing who you are first. If you, yourself are aware of your identity then how will you be able to embrace it. Be confident about yourself and try to broaden your horizon by trying new things. This is the only way in which you can get to know who you actually are, what are your likes and dislikes and what are the things that you enjoy doing.

Some of the questions that you should know the answer of are

What makes you feel beautiful?

What makes you want to scream with anger?

What makes you feel overwhelmed?

Don’t try to fit in where you don’t belong

It is difficult to fit in a box, or, old that you don’t belong. While growing up all we have been taught was how to be socially accepted, but in the process of that we don’t realize that we cannot be accepted by everyone in the world and if still we are making effort to fit we are simply wasting our time and effort. Remember that every human being is different and that is what makes us unique.

That is the interesting thing about world that everyone is unique, how boring it will be if everyone was a photocopy of each other.

YOU ARE DOING YOUR BEST

It is hard to survive in this world where there is so much criticism and everyone is pulling each other’s leg.  You should know that you are doing your best and no matter what decision you make there will always be an opportunity cost and consequence. So why not accept that whatever you are doing is best for you and everyone else. You are almost perfect and enough.